The orgasm gap is a real thing. Statistically, women in heterosexual pairings get off way less often than men. It’s a problem. Fixing it starts with knowing what your partner actually needs, which usually means changing up your boring bedroom staples.
Missionary is the obvious choice. It’s intimate, sure, but for a lot of women, it just doesn’t deliver the finish. That is where the coital alignment technique comes in.
Why the coital alignment technique works for women
Penetration isn’t always enough. Sex therapist Megan Fleming notes that roughly two-thirds of women won’t orgasm from penetration alone. They need clitoral stimulation.
The CAT method transforms the standard missionary position into something more effective by shifting the focus from depth to pressure. Instead of just going in and out, you’re creating a grinding motion that puts direct pressure on the clitoris.
CAT offers direct pressure and rocking and grinding | Megan Fleming
A study in the Journal of Sex and Marrial Therapy showed a 56 percent jump in orgasm frequency for women who tried this technique after missionary failed them. That is a massive leap.
How to perform the coital alignment technique correctly
If you want to try this, don’t just wing it. Follow these steps to get the physics right.
- The Setup : Start in traditional missionary. Slide a small pillow under the woman’s hips. This lift helps the pelvic angle.
- The Shift : After entry, slide your body up a few inches. Your chest should be closer to her shoulders, not face-to-face.
- The Contact : This shift puts the base of the penis in direct contact with the clitoris and vulva.
- The Movement : Stop the deep thrusting. Focus on small, grinding circles. Stay snug. Resist the urge to pull away.
Why does this work? The penis shaft creates constant friction against the clitoris with every move. When it starts hitting the spot, she’ll probably pull you closer with her legs. That’s your cue to keep doing exactly what you’re doing.
Benefits of CAT for men
It is not a one-sided deal. Lori Buckley, a sex therapist, suggests this approach can actually help men last longer. Why? Because you’ve ditched the fast, deep thrusts that often trigger a quick finish.
It slows things down. It focuses on the grind rather than the pump. Everyone gets more pleasure, and the timer resets.
Now, go try it out.
